Monday, September 14, 2009

OMG!!! Did you get engaged!?!?

So for those of you who know know I'm far from engaged (see other blog).

Earlier today I ran into a brother I have known for a very long time. It seems he's been going to school just as long as I have and the two of us have known one another since then. I hadn't seen him for a while, so I stopped to say salaam and see how he was doing. It was rather pleasant catching up with him. As we talk, I notice he is looking at my hands and 10 minutes into our conversation he yells "OMG!!! Did you get engaged!?!" (relax...he's married).

I pause for a second in wonder until finally saying... "No, I didn't." And then he says, "Oh, I thought...because of your ring."

My ring is on my right hand...I have always worn this ring. And I have always been careful that I never wear any rings on my left hand in fear (or concern, rather) to confuse potential suitors into thinking that I am engaged or worse....married. Perhaps I should refrain from wearing rings all together? Or maybe I should wear a sign that says "I'm single"? Who knew a small piece of jewelry could insight such an assumption.

For the males reading this...don't assume a girl wearing a ring is engaged or married, especially if the said ring is on her right hand. Generally, the Arab population wears their engagement ring on their right hand...but this is usually a diamond ring or other ring with a pretty gem that looks like it would be a wedding ring. If the ring looks plain, its probably not an engagement ring...especially if its on the right hand.


*MuslimChica* said...

Salaam alaykum wrwb,

Awww sister, inshAllah one day someone WILL ask you about a certain ring on your finger, and they will ask you if you are engaged/married, and inshAllah you will happily respond, "yes, I am,"

=] said...

Wa alaikum salaam wa rahamatullah wa barakatuhu...

Insha'Allah...when the time is right. Until then, perhaps i should go ring-less.

Mon Vie & Etc said...

Lol! I had this talk with my brother. I always have this ring that I wear on my wedding finger and he was like "Why do you wear that ring on that finger. You should only wear a ring if you're married!" Kinda of wierd, but I don't wear the ring anymore...only because I can't find it right now...But at the same time a ring will help you when you are trying to run away from creepy, crazy men! said...

I suppose the ring does throw people off (brothers especially). The last mass Muslim event I attended I decided to not wear the i went ring-less and the week after i had a friend mention two brothers who were interested in me...and wanted to inquire if was interested in marriage. (it really went nowhere)...but I just thought it was interesting that the day I go ring-less brothers start asking questions...or perhaps it was a coincidence?