Sunday, November 14, 2010

PRESSURE PRESSURE

It's enough when a Muslim girl is pressured by her family and friends to find a guy and settle down. But I think the tip of the ice berg, straw that broke the camels back, etc is when a non-Muslim tells a Muslim girl that she better start looking for a husband.

At the time it happened to me, it was funny...but it only made my situation even more apparent to me. And it got me thinking.

Maybe the guy I truly want does not exist. My mother tells me that I am way too picky. And I can agree with her. However, the thought of settling makes me despise getting married at all. I personally don't think the things I expect are extraordinary...I mean they are characteristics that exist in many people...(only they are married). I just seem to have an impossible time finding my person.

The search continues....and the frustration grows.

3 comments:

stargazer said...

I so relate to this!:D

Anonymous said...

(only they are married) ??? Allah has made polygyny lawful u know. :-)

hijaabified.beauty said...

Anonymous...

Just because it is lawful..doesn't make it recommended for everyone. I take my hat off to anyone who is able to live in such a marriage...but THAT is definitely NOT the way I see my married life.